Exacly, as you say; it's in the gain structure.
It's not any damaged hearing path, 4x12" cabs or picking technique no matter how some people seems to wanna claim that
That means you hate the gain structure of ALL (as you said) amps, profiles, modelling gear, most pro recordings, utube videos... ??? I think you really have a problem, no one here can fix!
You are a very talented guitar player, drummer and singer (!), but the way you work yourself up into crises is unhealthy - really, man. And how you react to peoples helping hand (even if they maybe are wrong...) is pathological, sorry. And respect and manner is missing. In germany we say: Der Ton macht die Musik (and the way you write is way too "dissonant" for me...)